Lgbtq Friendly BDSM Events in New York (2026)
If you are looking for lgbtq friendly BDSM events in New York, this page lists upcoming listings that match that tag alongside Weekend Event. These events take place across New York City, Brooklyn, Queens, and upstate hubs like Buffalo and Rochester and range from social meetups to structured play and education.
Tags are a practical filter for long-tail searches—think “beginner rope events in New Jersey” rather than generic “BDSM events.” We still recommend reading each organizer’s framing, prerequisites, and consent norms before you RSVP.
Use related links to explore neighboring states and other tags so you can widen or narrow your search without losing context.
Upcoming events
Dungeons & kink venues
Ascend Hudson Valley Community
Hudson Valley, NY
Welcome to The Ascend Hudson Valley Community - A nurturing space for consenting adults in the kink and alternative lifestyle community. We foster a risk-aware, consensual kink (RACK) community in the Hudson Valley.
Paddles
New York, NY
Long-running public BDSM play space in Manhattan with coed and men-only nights, equipment, and a street-accessible Chelsea location. Verify hours and policies on the venue website before visiting.
The Aphrodite Group
Rochester, NY
The Aphrodite Group (TAG) is a private, woman-owned, members-only BDSM club in Rochester, NY since 2016. Sat 7pm–1am. Currently relocating—monthly socials continue. Vetting socials to join. Single $35, plans from $30/mo.
The Eulenspiegel Society (TES)
New York, NY
Founded in 1971, TES is one of the oldest BDSM organizations in the US—munches, classes, workshops, and TES Fest in New Jersey.
The_LODGE brought to you by Lifestyle America Social Club Inc.
Dover Plains, NY
Lifestyle America Social Club (LASC) Inc. is a federally recognized 501(c)(3) nonprofit. The_LODGE is their Hudson Valley flagship venue—an education-first space for classes, Essential Education, consent-driven events, and community across NY, NJ, PA, CT, and MA.