New York

Kink Events & BDSM Community

Northeast • 2 upcoming events • 5 dungeons • 10 swing clubs

New to kink or your first venue visit? Read How to start exploring kink and BDSM safely on ECKE, then browse dungeons & clubs and events nationwide.

Upcoming Events in New York

Fire Island Leather Weekend 2026 — kink event in Cherry Grove, NY

Fire Island Leather Weekend 2026

May 15-17, 2026

Cherry Grove, NY

Fire Island Leather Weekend 2026 is a premier NYC-area leather weekend hosted by Excelsior MC on Fire Island, supporting LGBTQ+ nonprofits with parties, socials, and community events.

Weekend Event
Kink Odyssey - Spring 2026 — kink event in Greenwich, NY

Kink Odyssey - Spring 2026

May 27-31, 2026

Greenwich, NY

Kink Odyssey - Spring is a five-day BDSM exploration retreat at Easton Mountain in Greenwich, NY with experiential workshops, facilitated play parties, and community connection for both newcomers and veterans.

Retreat

BDSM Dungeons in New York

Ascend Hudson Valley Community — BDSM dungeon in Hudson Valley, NY

Ascend Hudson Valley Community

Hudson Valley, NY

Welcome to The Ascend Hudson Valley Community - A nurturing space for consenting adults in the kink and alternative lifestyle community. We foster a risk-aware, consensual kink (RACK) community in the Hudson Valley.

Paddles — BDSM dungeon in New York, NY

Paddles

New York, NY

Long-running public BDSM play space in Manhattan with coed and men-only nights, equipment, and a street-accessible Chelsea location. Verify hours and policies on the venue website before visiting.

The Aphrodite Group — BDSM dungeon in Rochester, NY

The Aphrodite Group

Rochester, NY

The Aphrodite Group (TAG) is a private, woman-owned, members-only BDSM club in Rochester, NY since 2016. Sat 7pm–1am. Currently relocating—monthly socials continue. Vetting socials to join. Single $35, plans from $30/mo.

The Eulenspiegel Society (TES) — BDSM dungeon in New York, NY

The Eulenspiegel Society (TES)

New York, NY

Founded in 1971, TES is one of the oldest BDSM organizations in the US—munches, classes, workshops, and TES Fest in New Jersey.

The_LODGE brought to you by Lifestyle America Social Club Inc. — BDSM dungeon in Dover Plains, NY

The_LODGE brought to you by Lifestyle America Social Club Inc.

Dover Plains, NY

Lifestyle America Social Club (LASC) Inc. is a federally recognized 501(c)(3) nonprofit. The_LODGE is their Hudson Valley flagship venue—an education-first space for classes, Essential Education, consent-driven events, and community across NY, NJ, PA, CT, and MA.

Swing & lifestyle clubs in New York

Questions about this directory

What does the New York directory include?+

This hub lists upcoming kink-friendly events, BDSM and play spaces, and swing and lifestyle clubs we currently have on file for New York. Counts change as listings are added or dates pass—always confirm details with organizers and venues.

How should I verify an event or venue before I go?+

Use official websites, ticketing pages, and direct contact for hours, pricing, dress codes, and consent policies. ECKE summarizes public information; it is not a substitute for the venue’s or producer’s own rules.

Is New York the only state you cover?+

We list venues and events across North America; this page focuses on New York (Northeast). Use the state links on this site to browse other regions.

Where can I read beginner-friendly guides?+

Start with the education library and blog pillars on this site—topics include consent, what to expect at a kink event, and how to find events near you.

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