BDSM Events in New York (2026 Guide)
New York has one of the largest and most diverse BDSM communities in the country. From New York City to surrounding areas, there are kink events happening almost every day of the week.
About this region
You will find rope and impact education, LGBTQ+ inclusive spaces, newcomer-friendly socials, and larger fetish and leather gatherings. The directory below highlights upcoming events with clear dates and locations so you can find something that fits your experience level and interests.
Upcoming listings below include Play party, Event, Social. Venues and dates change - bookmark this page if you are tracking the New York scene over time.
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Upcoming events
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Thursday Night at Checkmate
Nov 12, 2026 · Thu · 9:00 PM-2:00 AM (Manhattan)
New York, NY
TAG Freaky Friday Play Party at Alternative Desires
2026-11-13
Rochester, NY
Wild Wild Wet!!
2026-11-14
Rochester, NY
Country Night - Whiskey, Women & Pour Decisions
2026-11-14
Syracuse, NY
Checkmate Saturday Night
Nov 14, 2026 · Sat · 9:00 PM-2:00 AM (Manhattan)
New York, NY
The Lodge Bonds IAAWAC
Nov 18, 2026 · Wed · 6:00 PM-8:00 PM (Eastern)
Dover Plains, NY
Thursday Night at Checkmate
Nov 19, 2026 · Thu · 9:00 PM-2:00 AM (Manhattan)
New York, NY
Leather and Lace play party
2026-11-20
Rochester, NY
Erotica Friday
Nov 20, 2026 · Fri · 9:00 PM-2:00 AM (Manhattan)
New York, NY
GET LEID LUAU!
2026-11-21
Rochester, NY
Dungeons & kink venues
Ascend Hudson Valley Community
Kink CommunityHudson Valley, NY
Welcome to The Ascend Hudson Valley Community - A nurturing space for consenting adults in the kink and alternative lifestyle community. We foster a risk-aware, consensual kink (RACK) community in the Hudson Valley.
The Aphrodite Group
BDSM DungeonRochester, NY
The Aphrodite Group (TAG) is a private, woman-owned, members-only BDSM club in Rochester, NY since 2016. Sat 7pm-1am. Currently relocating - monthly socials continue. Vetting socials to join. Single $35, plans from $30/mo.
The Eulenspiegel Society (TES)
Community OrganizationNew York, NY
Founded in 1971, TES is one of the oldest BDSM organizations in the US - munches, classes, workshops, and TES Fest in New Jersey.
The_LODGE brought to you by Lifestyle America Social Club Inc.
Education-First Community VenueDover Plains, NY
Lifestyle America Social Club (LASC) Inc. is a federally recognized 501(c)(3) nonprofit. The_LODGE is their Hudson Valley flagship venue - an education-first space for classes, Essential Education, consent-driven events, and community across NY, NJ, PA, CT, and MA.