BDSM Events in New York (2026 Guide)
New York has one of the largest and most diverse BDSM communities in the country. From New York City to surrounding areas, there are kink events happening almost every day of the week.
You will find rope and impact education, LGBTQ+ inclusive spaces, newcomer-friendly socials, and larger fetish and leather gatherings. The directory below highlights upcoming events with clear dates and locations so you can find something that fits your experience level and interests.
Upcoming listings below include Indoor Event, Weekend Event, Retreat. Venues and dates change—bookmark this page if you are tracking the New York scene over time.
Upcoming events
Rochester Erotic Arts Festival
Apr 10-12, 2026
Auburn, NY
Hotel Take-Over! With Pool! Edgy, hot and beautiful erotic art featuring performances from aerial dance to burlesque, unique shopping, classes in art/dance/sex ed, and ASL interpreters available all weekend.
Fire Island Leather Weekend 2026
May 15-17, 2026
Cherry Grove, NY
Fire Island Leather Weekend 2026 is a premier NYC-area leather weekend hosted by Excelsior MC on Fire Island, supporting LGBTQ+ nonprofits with parties, socials, and community events.
Kink Odyssey - Spring 2026
May 27-31, 2026
Greenwich, NY
Kink Odyssey - Spring is a five-day BDSM exploration retreat at Easton Mountain in Greenwich, NY with experiential workshops, facilitated play parties, and community connection for both newcomers and veterans.
Dungeons & kink venues
Ascend Hudson Valley Community
Hudson Valley, NY
Welcome to The Ascend Hudson Valley Community - A nurturing space for consenting adults in the kink and alternative lifestyle community. We foster a risk-aware, consensual kink (RACK) community in the Hudson Valley.
Paddles
New York, NY
Long-running public BDSM play space in Manhattan with coed and men-only nights, equipment, and a street-accessible Chelsea location. Verify hours and policies on the venue website before visiting.
The Aphrodite Group
Rochester, NY
The Aphrodite Group (TAG) is a private, woman-owned, members-only BDSM club in Rochester, NY since 2016. Sat 7pm–1am. Currently relocating—monthly socials continue. Vetting socials to join. Single $35, plans from $30/mo.
The Eulenspiegel Society (TES)
New York, NY
Founded in 1971, TES is one of the oldest BDSM organizations in the US—munches, classes, workshops, and TES Fest in New Jersey.
The_LODGE brought to you by Lifestyle America Social Club Inc.
Dover Plains, NY
Lifestyle America Social Club (LASC) Inc. is a federally recognized 501(c)(3) nonprofit. The_LODGE is their Hudson Valley flagship venue—an education-first space for classes, Essential Education, consent-driven events, and community across NY, NJ, PA, CT, and MA.