BDSM Events in New York (2026 Guide)
New York has one of the largest and most diverse BDSM communities in the country. From New York City to surrounding areas, there are kink events happening almost every day of the week.
About this region
You will find rope and impact education, LGBTQ+ inclusive spaces, newcomer-friendly socials, and larger fetish and leather gatherings. The directory below highlights upcoming events with clear dates and locations so you can find something that fits your experience level and interests.
Upcoming listings below include Play party, Event, Class, Social. Venues and dates change - bookmark this page if you are tracking the New York scene over time.
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Upcoming events
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Sinful Sunday Night Swinger Social
2026-09-27 9:00 PM-2026-09-28 3:00 AM ET
Astoria, NY
Sensual Seduction - Wet and Wild Wednesday
2026-09-30
New York, NY
Thursday Night at Checkmate
Oct 1, 2026 · Thu · 9:00 PM-2:00 AM (Manhattan)
New York, NY
One Night Stand
2026-10-01 9:00 PM-2026-10-02 3:00 AM ET
Astoria, NY
Fantasy Fridays
2026-10-02
West Babylon, NY
The 2nd Annual Red Light District Party
2026-10-03
West Babylon, NY
Checkmate Saturday Night
Oct 3, 2026 · Sat · 9:00 PM-2:00 AM (Manhattan)
New York, NY
Sinful Sunday Night Swinger Social
2026-10-04 9:00 PM-2026-10-05 3:00 AM ET
Astoria, NY
The Lodge Learns Kinkdamentals: Lifestyle Etiquette (Virtual)
Oct 7, 2026 · Wed · 7:00 PM-9:00 PM (Eastern)
Dover Plains, NY
Thursday Night at Checkmate
Oct 8, 2026 · Thu · 9:00 PM-2:00 AM (Manhattan)
New York, NY
One Night Stand
2026-10-08 9:00 PM-2026-10-09 3:00 AM ET
Astoria, NY
Checkmate Saturday Night
Oct 10, 2026 · Sat · 9:00 PM-2:00 AM (Manhattan)
New York, NY
Sinful Sunday Night Swinger Social
2026-10-11 9:00 PM-2026-10-12 3:00 AM ET
Astoria, NY
Thursday Night at Checkmate
Oct 15, 2026 · Thu · 9:00 PM-2:00 AM (Manhattan)
New York, NY
One Night Stand
2026-10-15 9:00 PM-2026-10-16 3:00 AM ET
Astoria, NY
STIMULATE Halloween Ball
Oct 16, 2026
Brooklyn, NY
Erotica Friday
Oct 16, 2026 · Fri · 9:00 PM-2:00 AM (Manhattan)
New York, NY
Checkmate Saturday Night
Oct 17, 2026 · Sat · 9:00 PM-2:00 AM (Manhattan)
New York, NY
Sinful Sunday Night Swinger Social
2026-10-18 9:00 PM-2026-10-19 3:00 AM ET
Astoria, NY
One Night Stand
2026-10-22 9:00 PM-2026-10-23 3:00 AM ET
Astoria, NY
Thursday Night at Checkmate
Oct 22, 2026 · Thu · 9:00 PM-2:00 AM (Manhattan)
New York, NY
Sinful Sunday Night Swinger Social
2026-10-25 9:00 PM-2026-10-26 3:00 AM ET
Astoria, NY
The Lodge Bonds IAAWAC
Oct 28, 2026 · Wed · 6:00 PM-8:00 PM (Eastern)
Dover Plains, NY
Thursday Night at Checkmate
Oct 29, 2026 · Thu · 9:00 PM-2:00 AM (Manhattan)
New York, NY
One Night Stand
2026-10-29 9:00 PM-2026-10-30 3:00 AM ET
Astoria, NY
Halloween Meet & Greet
2026-10-30
Syracuse, NY
Nightmare on Speakeasy Street
2026-10-31
Syracuse, NY
Checkmate Halloween 2026
Oct 31, 2026 · Sat · 9:00 PM-2:00 AM (Manhattan)
New York, NY
Thursday Night at Checkmate
Nov 5, 2026 · Thu · 9:00 PM-2:00 AM (Manhattan)
New York, NY
Thursday Night at Checkmate
Nov 12, 2026 · Thu · 9:00 PM-2:00 AM (Manhattan)
New York, NY
Checkmate Saturday Night
Nov 14, 2026 · Sat · 9:00 PM-2:00 AM (Manhattan)
New York, NY
Country Night - Whiskey, Women & Pour Decisions
2026-11-14
Syracuse, NY
The Lodge Bonds IAAWAC
Nov 18, 2026 · Wed · 6:00 PM-8:00 PM (Eastern)
Dover Plains, NY
Thursday Night at Checkmate
Nov 19, 2026 · Thu · 9:00 PM-2:00 AM (Manhattan)
New York, NY
Erotica Friday
Nov 20, 2026 · Fri · 9:00 PM-2:00 AM (Manhattan)
New York, NY
Thursday Night at Checkmate
Nov 26, 2026 · Thu · 9:00 PM-2:00 AM (Manhattan)
New York, NY
LIFESTYLE AMERICA SOCIAL CLUB INC. ™ Quarterly Community Town Hall
Dec 2, 2026 · Wed · 7:00 PM-8:00 PM (Eastern)
Dover Plains, NY
Thursday Night at Checkmate
Dec 3, 2026 · Thu · 9:00 PM-2:00 AM (Manhattan)
New York, NY
Speakeasy Christmas - Mistletoe & Misbehavin'
2026-12-05
Syracuse, NY
Thursday Night at Checkmate
Dec 10, 2026 · Thu · 9:00 PM-2:00 AM (Manhattan)
New York, NY
The Lodge Bonds IAAWAC
Dec 16, 2026 · Wed · 6:00 PM-8:00 PM (Eastern)
Dover Plains, NY
Thursday Night at Checkmate
Dec 17, 2026 · Thu · 9:00 PM-2:00 AM (Manhattan)
New York, NY
Erotica Friday
Dec 18, 2026 · Fri · 9:00 PM-2:00 AM (Manhattan)
New York, NY
Thursday Night at Checkmate
Dec 24, 2026 · Thu · 9:00 PM-2:00 AM (Manhattan)
New York, NY
Thursday Night at Checkmate
Dec 31, 2026 · Thu · 9:00 PM-2:00 AM (Manhattan)
New York, NY
Speakeasy Casino Royale New Year’s Eve
2026-12-31
Syracuse, NY
The Lodge Bonds
Jan 27, 2027 · Wed · 6:00 PM-8:00 PM (Eastern)
Dover Plains, NY
The Lodge Bonds
Nov 17, 2027 · Wed · 6:00 PM-8:00 PM (Eastern)
Dover Plains, NY
Dungeons & kink venues
Ascend Hudson Valley Community
Kink CommunityHudson Valley, NY
Welcome to The Ascend Hudson Valley Community - A nurturing space for consenting adults in the kink and alternative lifestyle community. We foster a risk-aware, consensual kink (RACK) community in the Hudson Valley.
The Aphrodite Group
BDSM DungeonRochester, NY
The Aphrodite Group (TAG) is a private, woman-owned, members-only BDSM club in Rochester, NY since 2016. Sat 7pm-1am. Currently relocating - monthly socials continue. Vetting socials to join. Single $35, plans from $30/mo.
The Eulenspiegel Society (TES)
Community OrganizationNew York, NY
Founded in 1971, TES is one of the oldest BDSM organizations in the US - munches, classes, workshops, and TES Fest in New Jersey.
The_LODGE brought to you by Lifestyle America Social Club Inc.
Education-First Community VenueDover Plains, NY
Lifestyle America Social Club (LASC) Inc. is a federally recognized 501(c)(3) nonprofit. The_LODGE is their Hudson Valley flagship venue - an education-first space for classes, Essential Education, consent-driven events, and community across NY, NJ, PA, CT, and MA.