New Mexico kink events, places, vendors, and education

Blue Moon Social

Corrales, NM

Private Corrales-area members social - 21+, BYOB, themed RSVP nights; address after Orientation.

It's A Secret

Edgewood, NM

Private venue expansion to 7,500 sq ft - BYOB, no phones on premises.

Flogging Farmers

Online · tables at local events

We’re Flogging Farmers, makers of handcrafted birch floggers and impact toys built to feel as good in your hand as they do in play. Every piece is made with an eye for balance, durability, and a beautiful finish, because we believe a well-made toy!

EF Leather

Online · tables at local events

EF Leather specializes in high-quality impact toys including floggers, kangaroo-handled whips, nylon whips, galley whips, cat o’ nine tails, and leather goods. They describe a focus on precision, craftsmanship, and authenticity, with offerings that include vending, demonstrations, and educational classes..

M. Benson

Online · tables at local events

M. Benson describes their work as luxury, high-end bondage gear made from high quality materials and built to last. Their site includes collections like Hellebore and a full catalog of products..

Kink research desk

Beginner · 6 min read

Short briefs on BDSM, fetish, consent, and polyamory research, each tied to a public event or play space on this site.

How to Flirt With Women as a Bisexual Woman

Community · 8 min read

Why friendliness and flirting overlap among women, how to ask in a way she can refuse, and how that changes at a kink event.

Halloween Costumes Are Not Consent

Community · 9 min read

A costume is clothing. Public nights with minors are not play spaces. A kink event in October still has house rules.

The Kink Aware Professionals Directory

Resources · 5 min read

What the NCSF directory is, why a listing is not a credential, and how therapists, physicians, and lawyers on it differ.