Being turned on by a rape fantasy is a known, studied pattern. It is not consent, and it is not something you try on an unwitting person.
What the research is about
Sex and Psychology answers a reader who asked why the fantasy is arousing. The answer there is psychological. The rule here is practical.
Source: Sex Question Friday: Why Am I Turned On By Rape Fantasies?, Sex and Psychology, April 18,
- Figures, samples, and methods are on that page.
How this shows up in public play
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The fantasy can stay a fantasy.
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Any roleplay needs a prior yes and a way to stop.
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Never treat a partner's fantasy mention as a scene offer.
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If this is tangled up with a real assault, talk to a kink-aware clinician. NCSF keeps a directory.