A lot of kink negotiation now happens in messages before anyone is in the room.
What the research is about
This post looks at how people in BDSM relationships use technology to talk about sex and play.
Source: Technology Use for Sexual Communication in BDSM Relationships, Sex and Psychology, April 9,
- Figures, samples, and methods are on that page.
How this shows up in public play
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A text thread is a start. Repeat the limits out loud before a scene.
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Do not assume an old message is still a yes.
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Phones are often banned on the dungeon floor. Negotiate before you walk in.
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Screenshots of someone else's limits are not yours to share.