The word sadist scares people who have only heard the criminal sense. In consensual kink it names a negotiated role.
What the research is about
Sex and Psychology describes what self-identified sadists and masochists say they do. Techniques belong in a class, not in a headline.
Source: What Do Sadists and Masochists Actually Do In Bed?, Sex and Psychology, May 18,
- Figures, samples, and methods are on that page.
How this shows up in public play
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Consensual sadism stops when the other person stops.
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Impact, biting, and restraint are skills with injury lists.
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Ask what someone means before you agree to the label.
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Public rooms often limit marks, blood, and breath. Believe the limit.