BDSM fantasies are widespread. Showing up to do the acts, in public, with skill, is a smaller group.
What the research is about
Sex and Psychology's infographic covers how common the fantasies are.
Source: How Common Are BDSM Fantasies? (Infographic), Sex and Psychology, November 12,
- Figures, samples, and methods are on that page.
How this shows up in public play
-
Wanting it in your head is not the same as wanting it tonight.
-
Tell a partner the difference.
-
A first event can be clothes-on.
-
Use the fantasy data to feel less alone, then use a calendar to find a class.