Couples who practice BDSM often report solid relationship scores in research. The habit researchers keep pointing at is communication.
What the research is about
Sex and Psychology covers the link between BDSM practice and relationship satisfaction.
Source: How the Practice of BDSM is Linked to Relationship Satisfaction, Sex and Psychology, April 20,
- Figures, samples, and methods are on that page.
How this shows up in public play
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The finding is not "any amount of pain helps a marriage."
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Talk about limits before a convention weekend, not in the lobby.
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A shared class is a better first date than a surprise scene.
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If the relationship is shaky, a dungeon will not fix it.