Age Play 201: Rules, Routines & Deeper Power Exchange If Age Play 101 got your feet wet, 201 is about building structure and depth. This is where age play stops being "just trying little space" and becomes a dynamic

• complete with rules, rituals, and power exchange that can last beyond a single scene.

Moving From Scenes to Dynamics In 101 you might have done a short scene. In 201, you start asking:

• What does our day-to-day dynamic look like?

• How do we keep boundaries clear between little space and "real life"?

• How do we negotiate if this will be sexual, non-sexual, or a mix? This is the level where caregiver/little (CGL) relationships get their rhythm

• and where things like discipline, rewards, and ongoing rituals come into play.

Building Rules & Rituals Rules aren't about "being strict just to be strict." They're about creating structure that feels safe and nurturing.

Common examples:

• Bedtime rules: bedtime reminders, tuck-ins

• Chores or check-ins: daily "report" or sticker chart

• Clothing rules: onesies at home, hair ribbons, socks

• Speech protocols: using titles (Daddy/Mommy, Sir/Ma'am)

• Media time: designated cartoon or coloring time

Rituals might include:

• Morning or bedtime routine (brush teeth, story time)

• Weekly "little night" with planned activities

• Rewards (stickers, treats) for good behavior

• Gentle discipline (time-out, spanking

• if consensual) Tip: Write your rules down. A "little contract" or shared Google Doc keeps everyone clear and helps prevent miscommunication.

Sexual vs. Non-Sexual Negotiation This is a huge part of

201. Age play can be completely non-sexual (purely nurturing) or erotic. If you want to add sexual play, renegotiate everything.

Questions to ask:

• What sexual activities are on/off the table while in little space?

• Are there hard limits (e.g., diapers sexualized, pacifier play, humiliation)?

• How do we transition from little space to sexual headspace? (Some people need a ritual like removing props, asking permission, or using a de-role phrase before sexual touch starts.) Having a clear "consent reset" point makes sexual age play safer and helps avoid blurring boundaries.

Discipline & Power Exchange (Advanced but Common) CGL dynamics sometimes include discipline or punishment. This should never feel like real-life abuse

• it's a roleplayed consequence within negotiated limits.

Examples:

• Corner time

• Extra chores

• Removal of privileges (e.g., no cartoons tonight)

• Spanking or impact play (if consented) Always have a safeword and aftercare. Discipline is supposed to feel fair and reinforcing, not traumatizing.

Psychological Depth: Nurture, Regression & Trust The more you do age play, the more you'll notice how it affects your emotions:

• Regression can feel vulnerable: caregivers must respect boundaries.

• Littles may feel shame afterward: aftercare and reassurance are vital.

• Caregivers can feel drained: build in self-care for them, too. This is why check-ins are crucial

• not just after a scene, but days later if something heavy was triggered.

Example 201 Scene: Rules + Rewards Setup: Little has three pre-agreed rules for the evening (e.g., "Use soft voice," "Color for 20 minutes," "Brush teeth before bed"). Scene: Caregiver enforces rules gently but firmly. Rewards with sticker or small treat for each completed task. Aftercare: Story time, praise, cuddle time, and a brief adult-mode check-in about what felt good or hard.

Continue Your Journey Ready to explore the taboo side safely? Check out Age Play 301: Taboo, Edgeplay & Psychological Depth to learn about advanced techniques, consent negotiation, and psychological safety.

Resources & Further Reading

• Wikipedia: Ageplay

• overview of techniques & cultural context

• [BDSM Wiki

• Caregiver/Little](https://bdsmwiki.info/Caregiver/little)

• detailed dynamic information

• [TASHRA

• Consent Frameworks](https://tashra.org)

• kink-aware research and education

• [Planned Parenthood

• FRIES Consent](https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/relationships/sexual-consent)

• consent framework